Devotion on dating
Here are a few of my ponderings: When I was discouraged after a miserable athletic performance, my father would often put his arm around me.
Walking through a dangerous area at night, I would feel his protecting hand on my shoulder. Walking behind me at the dinner table, my mom would do this “rubbing-of-my-head-until-my-hair-looked-like-I-just-woke-up” thing. I imagine tears are now beginning to form in the corners of your eyes.
Talk about stuff, have a heart-to-heart as the relationship forms. In your communication, it’s critical to have a servant’s heart that is motivated to help your partner avoid sexual arousal.
Have a “this, but not that” discussion, and by the name of all that’s holy... Don’t simply think what does and does not arouse you.
This is sound advice and certainly helpful, but we want to suggest an alternative focus.
Take a look at the following verses: We would suggest the “Holy Kiss” principle on the physical dimension of your dating relationships, provided your Bible doesn’t translate the word “holy” as “French.” As infants, as children and as adults, physical contact is the primary way we show care, protection, affirmation, encouragement and love for each other.
As a man, it’s your role to lead in the area of setting boundaries and guarding each other against lust.
They should be rather intuitive, which always makes for a good standard, but we’ll spell out some principles to avoid legal problems should someone use this standard to defend the owning and operating of a Christian brothel.
Your degree of physical contact should be appropriate for your level of relationship.
Where, after all, would sports be in America without the ubiquitous slap on the rear? But I better keep writing and make my point before you stop reading and think you just got the green light to pat your girlfriend on the tush.
Ponder a moment the different ways physical contact expressed care to you when you were growing up.
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This question of what is appropriate is usually asked as, “Where do you draw the line?