Dating older woman 8 years older
I am no longer attracted to her physically and she is not interested in sex – in fairness, she probably has been pretending to have an interest for a long time.
I know she is worried about me leaving and she does not challenge me in the way she used to and is always checking up on where I am and who I’m with.
In a huge research study in ‘Enduring Love in the 21st Century’, conducted in the UK in 2014, couples reported kindness and friendship as the most important aspects of relationship and perhaps this is something you should prioritise before considering letting go such an important relationship in your life.
If you continue to struggle with this decision, I recommend some sessions with a psychotherapist or psychologist to help you unravel your own issues in this situation.
Answer: It feels that you are paralysed in your relationship and this may be mirrored by your partner who is now afraid that if she challenges you or admits her insecurity she will drive you away.
Perhaps this is what is really happening in your relationship – she is now very insecure and you are both reacting to this by standing back and evaluating instead of getting stuck in together and working things out.
It seems you were very attracted to her independence of spirit and her beauty and now she is concerned about these things and you may be feeling that you have lost something that was very valuable to you.
I’m now in my early 50s and about 30 years ago I met a woman who blew me away.You say that your partner has lost interest in sex and I wonder about this.Women of 70 can and do have very good sex lives so I’m wondering if she is withdrawing out of fear that her body is not what it once was or that you might now be critical of her.If you’re nervous about how to go about it, just remember that the most important thing you can do is to have confidence in who you are and to not make such a big deal out of your age difference.Then just sit back, relax, and enjoy the relationship, just as you would do when dating a woman of any age.