Dating a vietnamese man
If it happens, they usually work hard to save the marriage and try to get their partner back. Andy: What is the number one issue in the family (money, cheating, lack of intimacy, etc…)Phuong: It’s money! But do you think many Vietnamese couples can have a healthy sex life even after being married for many years? Some of the traditional girls believe the man has to do all the work in the bedroom. Also, Vietnamese people generally don’t take care of their bodies after they get married, so their partner may get turned off. Andy: Are single mothers viewed negatively in Vietnam? Phuong: On the countryside, divorce and single moms are viewed negatively.Furthermore, after marriage, the wife is required to take care of the husband’s family in addition to the kids and her own family. Phuong: In Vietnamese culture, being a single mom is not easy. However, some of them still can recover and live a good life. Just one generation ago, an unmarried pregnant girl usually had to move to another province to give birth. Divorce is not common so you don’t see many single mothers.Phuong: I think cheating is a big issue everywhere.But, in Vietnam, people are very afraid of divorce. Money is usually the number one issue in the West too. Does the government give any kind of financial support to single moms?My cousins and I used to stay with my grandmother when my parents were working.Andy: Is cheating outside the marriage a big issue in Vietnam?I remember my aunty giving me a piece of white chocolate when I was 8 years old. On the streets, most people used Cyclos () or bicycles to get around. I got my first bicycle when I was 10 years old and it was a dream come true.
But what we rarely hear are stories from local girls.
While this is fine, those are not what I would call typical Vietnamese girls.
She likely is somewhat Westernized and her parents are probably less traditional.
For entertainment, the average Vietnamese family only had a simple black and white TV that mostly showed Chinese and Korean movies. And the only way to listen to music was on the radio. But I feel lucky because my childhood wasn’t heavily influenced by technology like today. In the 90s, you did not see many Westerners in Saigon.
When I was 13 years old, I traveled to Nha Trang with my family, and I remember how surprised I was to see so many Westerners!